So I have been thinking all week about fathers day and for so long I hated this time of year. You see I did not have the best dad growing up and I feel like Father's day is to honor those dads who are amazing so it was just like any other day for me, well until a few years ago. So here are my thoughts on Father's day hope you enjoy.
If you look up the word dad in the dictionary it simply says "one's father" if you look up Father in the dictionary it gives many definitions but here is one that stood out to me and I will explain why " A man who gives care and protection to someone or something".
As we grow up or at least I have heard in my life time anyone can be a "Father, but it takes a real man to be a dad" and its those men in our lives that we should be honoring on father's day .
I have an amazing man in my life who has been important to me for most of my life. He was there for me through the good and the bad he didn't leave and he was quick to show love when I needed it even though he is not a real get in touch with your feelings kind of guy. But I will say this he is also quick to pull me aside if I may be in the wrong about something, and show me the loving way to correct it without judgement, and show me the love of someone even in the good, with a simple smile or hey good job or just and I love you. He is who I will be celebrating this Father's day, which is my great uncle Russ.
He served his country and fought hard as a solider and a man. He was there for my family as well as his own family. He has been through what I would say hell and back this past year he was told he needed a new heart but they weren't going to put him on the list to get one and then they decided to do it and he wait for 6 weeks and many hearts later he got one.
He is ornery and sometime seems to be up to no good but he will always have your back, wrong or right he's will get and then give you crap later (if necessary). Many call him pops or dad or pa some even call him grandpa.
I remember when I was 16 almost 17 we moved to Vegas to live with them (temporarily) till we got on our feet as a family so there was 8 of us in a 4 bedroom house with 2 bathrooms and as you can imagine it was crazy. Some of us were in school, some working and we I stayed home for the first month because I was transitioning from homeschool to going to school, well one day my uncle pulled us all out of bed at the but crack of dawn and he started yelling at us to clean the house ASAP, he was off to work and he was not having non of it well I was skittish and started to cry he looks right at me and "says there is no reason to cry so stop it" mind you he was yelling lol :-) (I cried when people yelled it kind of scared me).
My bothers, cousins and my self were all out side one day and you hear my uncle (he's under a car) start yelling and my cousin's said "Jump" or "move" and just in time tools came a flying. There are some many fun memories I look back on that include him in my life. Like him walking me down the isle when it came to get married or when I needed advice on just about anything in my falling down house he was there to guide or talk me through it. Or when you have car trouble he has your back.
He was just one of those people who had as we say now has "no filter" he had no problem telling how it is but also being loving about it. And that my friends is what I see a "father" truly is. He is someone that can love you in the anger, the fun , the hard times and the good times and you walk away feeling like a better person for it. He has calmed down a lot "in his old age" but he still will love you no matter what he is always there. I think my aunt has something to do with keeping him sane and grounded why the rest of us drive him insane.
God says he is the Father to the fatherless but I also feel like he puts people in your lives when you need them to love you and guide you. He can't be here in the earthly form but he knows just what you need in the earthly form to guide you, keep you safe and love you regardless of your stupid craziness. He loves us, he sees our hearts, he knows when we are beyond broken and just need a "Dad".
I encourage you this weekend if you have a Dad and he's who you want to celebrate the go do it make him feel like he matters in your life not for what he can give you but he gave you. If you don't have a dad but you have someone special who is just amazing and loves you even if that my just be your mom the show her or the person how important they are to you, but once again not for what they can do for you but what they have done for you. We simply forget that single Moms have that important rule of dad to and they need to be encouraged and acknowledge on this Father's Day.
Have a Blessed weekend everyone!!
